I Do?

"All the single men to the front for the garter throw. Come on right up!!"

"Oh geez, here we go" I think to myself and proceeded to head up to the front along with another three (!) guys out of the whole congregation who attended my cousins wedding.

I line myself up in the back corner and think to myself "Do I really need this? Do I really need to get married in the first place?"

So up goes the garter straight up into the air and right into my general direction, all the while I'm thinking "Oh, shit. Oh, fuck no." Mind you, the person closest to me was about a good metre away. I didn't want it, and it seems like none of the other guys did too, and besides, I didn't want to smell fishy for the rest of the night. So I just let it drop, right next to my left shoe.

"You want it?" I asked the guy to my left. "It's yours if you want."

"Nah, mate. Take it." He replies

Got me thinking, is matrimony appropriate in this day in age? In an age where promiscuity seems to reign supreme, are marriages these days doomed to fail right from the get go? To me, marriage these days just seems to be a slight step above the BF/GF stage, only in that the partnership is legally bounded by law and "in the eyes of God". Perhaps I've seen quite a few marriages fail in my time, hence my view, but I'm pretty sure the same thought has come up for many of you all.

I find the whole notion of being 'bound' to someone for the rest of my life quite daunting. Imagine that, eternity, with someone. It might sound romantic for some, but really, bound to someone, for your whole life. No one else. Maybe it's a reflection of my nature, but I don't think I can do it.

I would just not like to put myself in a situation or position where I would limit myself to the one thing. Im an explorer, kinda like Captain Cook or something. Like, he didn't stop even when he found Australia, he wanted more, so he continued on with his journey to find more land. And along the way, he found kick-arse places like New Zealand and Hawaii. Okay, he got killed when he found Hawaii but still, he wouldn't have found it if he just stayed in one spot.

My point? Life is way too short to limit yourself to anything. Explore, live life and have (safe) fun along the way. Translate that in any which way you want.

Perhaps it's just the youth in me saying these things. And maybe it's because I haven't met anyone who's knocked me off my feet enough for me to want to spend the rest of my life with.

Who knows what will happen, but for now I'm pretty adamant with my particular view. The balls are now in your court to make me change my mind.